Noah

and turn your Bibles to Hebrews chapter 11 to Hebrews chapter 11. for those of you may be wondering why Pastor Caleb's not up here leading today is because we fired him and uh but then I had to hire him back because I want to keep my grandkids around no actually he is going to be preaching at Kai Point Baptist Church one of our daughter churches over in Hawaii Kai side this morning so pray for them at the service there it's good to be back for those of you asked about the funeral it went very very well my wife got the the mainland in time to see her dad and for him to know that she was there and then I got there the day after and was there to be able to be at the hospital with my wife when

he passed away and he passed away very peacefully in his sleep we really didn't even realize that he'd passed away it was so peaceful and then we were able to have all of the family was already there for the funeral and so everything worked together for good and we're thankful that her father is was 97 years old but was a Believer and he was ready to go to heaven so we're thankful for that and thankful for your prayers but it's good to be back with you today and this is a sermon I've prepared over two weeks ago and so I'm ready to preach it and so Hebrews chapter 11 and beginning with verse number one down through verse number seven it says now Faith is the substance of things hoped for the

evidence of Things Not Seen for by it the elders obtained a good report through faith we understand that the worlds were framed by the word of God so the things which are seen were not made of things which do appear by faith Abel offered unto God a more excellent sacrifice than Cain by which he obtained witness that he was righteous God testifying of his gifts and by it he being dead yet speaketh by faith Enoch was translated in there you should not see death and was not found because God had translated him for before his translation he had this testimony that he pleased God but without faith it is impossible to please him for he is a re for he that cometh to God must believe that he is and

is a rewarder of them that diligently seek Him by faith Noah being warned of God of things not seen as yet moved with fear prepared an ark to the saving of his house by the which he condemned the world and became heir of the righteousness which is by faith let's bow for prayer father once again we ask that you would open up your word to us as we look at the life of Noah and what he can teach us about faith and we pray that you would challenge us as we take our broken lives and give them to you to fix and to be used for your glory for it's in Jesus name we pray amen today we're going to talk about Noah in our series on broken and uh and the Bible says that Noah found Grace in Genesis chapter

6 and verse number eight but Noah found Grace in the eyes of the Lord now what does that mean that Noah found Grace how how do you find Grace in Ephesians 2 8 9 that says for by grace are you saved through faith then not of yourselves is the gift of God not of Works lest any man should boast and so how do you find Grace well there's a couple different ways you can find something and and one of the ways that you can find something is you can find it by accident somebody might drop some money out of their pocket and uh you find it and Ricky found it and it's in his pocket already so sometimes you find it how many of you have ever found money on the ground raise your hand I think almost

everybody has right how many have found at least uh ten dollars or more on the ground and picked it out how do you found twenty dollars or more on the ground how many found a hundred dollars or more on the ground I expect you to tithe all right but anyway sometimes you find things by accident in Proverbs chapter 3 and verse number 6 it says in all thy ways acknowledge Him and He Shall direct thy past you see we find money by accident because we happen to pass by after somebody dropped it but you know there's no accidents with God God directs our path and the many people have found the grace of God by what would seem to be an accident I remember a young couple in the church years ago we had

this is early on in the church and my wife and I had gone out and put tracks and cars in the windshield wipers we don't do that anymore because they get kind of messed up in there so we put them in the door handle instead but we put them in the windshield wiper and it was when church was brand new and we're the only ones that went out and did that at that time and and that was around Christmas or so a little before Christmas and and there was no results nobody came to church because of it until the next February in February there's a young couple that showed up at church and we asked them well how did you hear about the church and they said well we were washing our car and we found one of

your tracks stuffed down into where our windshield wipers hide away and it was all faded and worn out and as best as we could figure out that was one of the tracks that we had put out in December but they didn't find it until February and they said to us they said this if we had found the track in December we would have thrown in the trash because we weren't ready to go to church but when we found it in February we knew that this is where we needed to go we needed God in our lives see they needed the grace of God that was no accident they found the grace of God but not by accident I remember another person that came to church to ask well how did you come to church he said well I saw you out

sine waving and I said well that's good that's why we're out there let people know that we're here but he says you need to understand I wasn't going to go over there I I took a wrong turn and I ended up coming by where you guys were at that was not where I was planning to go that was not where I wanted to be but somehow I got a wrong turn and end up by you guys sine waving and God just led me to come to church and that person ended up getting saved finding the grace of God I remember another time there was a a family that was going to church but they were going to a different Church somebody had told them about this church they were going to look for it and they couldn't find it and as they

were wandering around look for it they saw our church and they saw the guy that was the parking lot tenant waving at cars going by and they said well let's go on in there they look friendly and they came in and ended up getting saved finding the grace of God now all of those seems like they were just accidents but there are no accidents with God that's the Providence of God and God will leads you to his grace now you find things sometimes because they're accidentally dropped you find them by accident but other times you find them because you look for them right now the yesterday I hid a 20 bill under one of the chairs here in church it's right in the middle on the front bar of your chair if

you've got it so if you want to reach down and see if that's your 20 bill right now and see if it's there and if you get it now it's the same one all right Gabby you got it all right Gabby got it there is this so sometimes you find it because it was hidden there just for you in Matthew chapter 13 verses 45 and 46 it says again the Kingdom of Heaven is like unto a merchant man seeking goodly pearls who when he found one pearl of great price when sold all that he had and he bought it in Jeremiah 29 13 it says and you shall seek me and find me when you search me with all your heart you see God has put Grace right out there where you can find it God has put Grace if you will just seek for him if

you will just look for him if you will go after him you will find the grace of God and sometimes you can find a twenty dollar bill just because it's there see I got one right here in my hand anybody want to find this 20 bill raise your hand if you want to find this twenty dollar bill let me see here I think I'm going to have Uma find this 20 Bill Uma so there you go now there you are see she found it because I was giving it and the Bible tells us in Luke chapter 19 and verse number 10 for the son of man has come to seek and to save that which was lost you see you don't have to find Grace because God is offering Grace all you need to do is find him and you'll find the grace of God God came to

seek you to give you his grace God has put his grace right there where you can find it and it's not even by accident because God in his Providence will lead you to where you can find the grace of God the Bible says that Noah found Grace in the eyes of the Lord so what is Grace in Hebrews chapter 4 and verse number 16 the Bible says let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace that we may obtain mercy and find Grace and help in time of need now grace and mercy are the two sides of the same coin Mercy is not getting what you deserve Mercy is not getting what you deserve in Romans chapter 6 and verse 23 the Bible says that the wages of sin is death death but the gift of God is eternal

life through Jesus Christ the lord we deserve to die and to go to hell we don't deserve to go to heaven and mercy is not getting what you deserve but Grace is getting what you don't deserve Grace is getting what you don't deserve in Ephesians chapter 1 and verse number 7 it says in whom we have Redemption through his blood the Forgiveness of sins according to the riches of his grace somebody wants divine grace as God's riches at Christ's expense God's riches at Christ's expense you see the reason we can have Grace is because the wages of sin of death but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ the Lord God sent his son Jesus Christ to die upon the cross he sent his son to die to

pay the wages of your sin and mine and he said you know what if you will trust Christ as your savior you don't have to get what you deserve you can have mercy and not go to hell and he said you trust Jesus Christ your savior you can have Grace and I'll allow you to come to heaven and prepare a place for you in heaven as well and so you need the grace of God Noah found Grace in the eyes of the Lord have you found God's grace but the Bible also tells us that Noah was a just man in Genesis chapter 6 and verse 9 these are the generations of Noah Noah was a just man and perfect in his generations and Noah walked with God now what does it mean to be a just man somebody is divided this way to be

justified is just as if I'd never sinned just as if I'd never sinned when you're a just man God makes it as you have never sinned you see the Bible says in Romans 3 23 and 24 for all have sinned and come short of the glory of God being justified freely by his grace through Redemption is in Christ Jesus when we find the grace of God God then takes us who are sinners and justifies us just as if we never sin because of his grace because of his righteousness and so we can be justified if we have the grace of God but you need to receive that Grace in Romans chapter 10 verses 9 to 10 that if thou shall confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus and Shall Believe in thine heart that God is raised in the

dead thou shall be saved for with the heart man believeth on the righteousness and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation you see if you want the grace of God you've got to receive it Ricky had to get up out of his chair and pick up that 20 bill now if that had been a pen he probably wouldn't have moved because he wouldn't have seen the value in it but the the greater the value the more willing you are to do something and you need to do something to receive the grace of God you know uh when that 20 bills take time to sheriff you never reach down onto your chair if it was there you would have never gotten it you would have never found it even though it was there waiting for you you

still had to reach for it and receive it and then Uma had to receive the 20 Bill she had to raise it and said I want that the rest of you missed out and as she raised her hand and then she reached out and accepted it and that's what salvation is to accept Jesus Christ as your savior to believe on him and to ask him to be your savior and to come into your heart in life and take away your sin and give you eternal life are you have you received and found the grace of God are you justified in the sight of God not because of your works for by Grace you saved through faith not of work so let's say Manchester both but because of the mercy and the grace of God go over to Second Peter chapter 2.

second Peter chapter 2 and look at verse number five second Peter chapter 2 and verse number five it says is bear not the old world but saved Noah the eight person a preacher of righteousness bringing the flood upon the world the ungodly God saved Noah but Noah preached to others as well and you and I have a responsibility we have received the grace of God and our job is to tell the world around us about his grace now nobody believed Noah nobody trusted God and God on the ark except his own family and maybe you said well I tried to witness to people and nobody's ever gotten saved it's not our job to save him but it is our job to tell them of the grace of God we need to tell them that God is

long-suffering look at second Peter chapter 3 and look at verse number five and six second Peter chapter 3 and verses 5 and 6 for they this they willingly are ignorant of that by the word of God the heavens were of old and the Earth standing out of the water and in the water whereby the world that was then being over overflowed the water perished and then skipped down to verse number nine the Lord is not slack concern his promise but some men count slackness but his long-suffering to us we're not willing that they should perish but all should come to repentance you know when God told Noah he's got to build the ark and by the time he built the ark that was over a hundred years uh time period

it was a long time God is long-suffering and he has given you the opportunity to get saved But realize that one day the Judgment of God is going to come and one day everyone in this room is going to be just like my father-in-law and the guest of honor at a funeral and the Bible says that when we die after this comes the judgment and we need to be ready for it and so God is long-suffering but we need to tell the world about Jesus Christ and tell them about the grace of God because there's a limit to God's long-suffering in Genesis chapter 6 and verse number 3 and the Lord said my spirit shall not only strive with man for that he's also his flesh yet his days shall be 120 years God said you

know what I'm going to put up this so long and then I'm going to judge the world and there's going to come a day when God is going to judge this world and if you look around you look what's happening it seems like it's coming ever faster and faster in second Corinthians chapter 6 and verse number two for you saith I've heard thee in a Time accepted and the day of salvation have I suckered thee behold now is the accepted time behold now is the day of salvation and if you're here today and you've never found the grace of God you need to find it today if you've never been Justified today is the day that you can be justified before God to have his mercy and not go to hell and have his grace and

go to heaven for all eternity and you need to realize that not only you but all the world around you your neighbors your friends and others need to hear about God's grace and about God's mercy and about God's long-suffering because one day that long-suffering will end now the Bible also says that not only did Noah find Grace in the sight of God but in Genesis 6 9 it says these are the generations of Noah Noah was a just man and a perfect in his Generations in Noah walked with God the Bible says that he was perfect in his Generations turn to Psalms 145. Psalms 145 what does that mean that Noah was perfect in his generation it doesn't mean that he never sinned because we will see that he did

Sin it doesn't mean that he never did anything wrong so what does it mean that he was perfect in his Generations in Psalms 145 verses 1 through 5 it says I will exalt thee my God O King I Will Bless thy name Forever and Ever every day will I bless Thee I will praise thy name forever and ever great is the Lord and greatly to be praised and his greatness is unsearchable one generation shall praise thy Works to another and shall declare thy Mighty acts I will speak of the Glorious honor of thy majesty and of thy wondrous works you see we need a generation that will speak of the glories of God we need a generation that will tell others about God's glory you know there's different Generations you

have the greatest Generation that was my father-in-law's generation the World War II generation in Psalms chapter 71 Psalms chapter 71 and verse number 18 Psalms chapter 71 and verse number 18 the Bible says now also when I am old and gray-headed O God forsake me not until I have showed thy strength unto this generation and thy power to everyone that is to come our job is to show to the Next Generation to show them the strength and the power of God you know the the young people today they need a generation that they can look up to they need a generation that will show them that God is good and God is faithful they need a generation to show them God's power and God's glory and there's the greatest Generation I don't think we have many of any in here today from that generation but the next generation is the boomer generation now the boomer generation was those who were born between 1946 and 1964.

how many of you here today are part of the boomer generation raise your hand if you're born in those years all right so we've got a few of that generation that's my generation as well in Psalms chapter 78 and Verses 4 through 7. Psalms chapter 78 Verses 4 through 7 we will not hide them from their children showing to the generation to come the Praises of the Lord and his strength and his wonderful works that he had done for he established a testimony in Jacob and appointed a law in Israel which he commanded our fathers that they should make them known to their children that the generation to come might know them even as the the children which should be born who should arise and declare them

to their children that they might set their hope in God and not forget the works of God but keep his Commandments and might not be as their fathers as stubborn and rebellious generation a generation that set not their heart a right and whose Spirit was not steadfast with God as the boomer generation our job is to tell the Next Generation that you need to live for the Lord to to tell them about God's praises and about the goodness of God and about the importance of being faithful to God and then there's Generation X Generation X is uh 1965 to about 1980 how many of you are part of the Generation X raise your hand all right the Generation X Generation in Joel chapter 1 and verses two and three

it says hear this you o man and give ear all you inhabitants of the land hath this been in your days or even the days of your father tell you your children of it and let your children tell their children and their children under the generation you see again if you're going to be perfect in your generation then what is your job your job is to live through the glory of God and to pass that on to the next Generation to tell them about God's glory and God's goodness to share with them who God is and and how God has done so much in our lives then you have Generation Y the Millennials and I think that's an appropriate name for them because they were out they're always asking the question why why you know that's the the millennial generation uh that's from 1980 to 1994.

how many of you are part of the millennial generation the the why Generation all right uh and now I I I sometimes get frustrated my son is a millennial and I sometimes get frustrated because he's always asking the question why but you know what that's a good question our theme verse for the church is acts 17 11. these were more noble than those in thessalonica and that they received the word with all Readiness of mine and search the Scriptures Daily where those things are so I'm thankful for a generation that doesn't just say well that's what my mom and dad told me that's what my church told me but there are Generations will say I want to know what God tells me I want to know why this is

what the Bible says and they want to understand the word of God um they just need to the the the why question is a good question but a better question is The Who and that's God you know the only perfect world will be the Millennium you know the Millennials they want to change the world uh they want to fix everything in the world and that's that's a good thing to do but the only really perfect world will be the Millennium when Jesus Reigns on this Earth for a thousand years Zechariah Chapter 14 and verse number 9 the Lord shall be king over all the Earth and in that day shall there be one Lord and his name won and then finally there's a Generation Z and that's 1996 to president who's part of the Generation Z here all right a few of you are and uh you know I want you to turn over Proverbs Chapter 30.

we really haven't defined this generation fully but I I'm afraid that part of this generation can be defined by Proverbs Chapter 30 and verses 11 through 14. it says there is a generation that curses their father and has not blessed their mother there's a generation that are pure in their own eyes and yet is not washed from their filthiness there's a generation of how lofty are there their eyes and their eyelids are lifted up there's a generation whose teeth are his swords and their jaw teeth his knives to Devour the poor from all the earth and the need from among men you know what don't be that generation don't be the generation that rejects God don't be the generation that turns away from

the Lord you know in Ecclesiastes chapter 1 and verse 4 it says one generation passes away and another generation cometh but the Earth abideth forever when the Bible says that Noah was perfect in his generation it doesn't mean that Noah never did anything wrong but what it does mean is that Noah believed in God and Noah's desire in his heart was to take that belief and pass it on to the next generation and no matter what generation you're a part of today make sure that you are doing your job to pass on to the next Generation the glory and the honor of God to show them how great our God is in our generation then the Bible says in Genesis chapter 6 verse 9 these are the generations of Noah

Noah was a just man and perfect in his generations and Noah walked with God Noah walked with God now we also talked about Enoch who walked with God and then he was gone he went right up to heaven Noah walked with God but he was still here on this Earth but what does it mean that Noah walked with God I want you to turn over to Genesis chapter 6. Genesis chapter 6 and I want you to look at verse number 22. Genesis chapter 6 and verse number 22. Genesis 6 22 the Bible says thus did Noah according to all that the Commandments uh all that God commanded him so did he and then skip down to verse Numbers chapter 7 and verse number five and Noah did according to all that the Lord commanded him see

Noah kept the Commandments of the Lord in John chapter 14 and verse number 15 the Bible says if you love me keep my Commandments to walk with God is to keep the Commandments of God is to be obedient to the Lord not only did Noah walk with God and keep God's Commandments but Noah also worship God look at Genesis chapter 8 and look at verse number 20. and Noah building an altar unto the Lord and took of every clean beast and every clean fowl and offered burnt offerings on the altar so the walk with God is to keep his Commandments and to Worship the Lord it says that he was perfect the word perfect means that he finished the job see it means to complete the job Noah started building the ark and

he finished the job he did what he started out to do and that's what God is looking for as Christians who will stay faithful whose Christians who will stay faithful to the job that will complete the job and do what God has called me to do now even though the Bible says that Noah was perfect he wasn't he wasn't without sin in Genesis chapter 9 and beginning with verse number 20 Genesis chapter 9 and verse number 20 it says Noah began to be a husbandman which is another name for a farmer and he planted a Vineyard and he drank of the wine and was drunken and he was uncovered within his tent and ham the father of Canaan saw the nakedness of his father and told his two Brethren without and Shem

and japheth took a garment and laid it upon both their shoulders and went backward and covered the nakedness of their father and their faces were backward and they saw not their father's nakedness and Noah awoke from his wine and knew what his younger son had done unto him and he said cursed be Canaan a servant of servants shall be unto his brother so Noah sinned he got drunk lay naked in front of his children he was not perfect and he messed up let me challenge you for a lot of Christians they lived the life that God calls them to live and then they mess up the Bible says in second John chapter 1 and verse number eight look to yourselves that we lose not those things which we have brought

but that we receive a full reward I've seen many Christians over the years who are faithful to God Faithful at church living for the Lord and then they messed up and ruined their testimony here Noah is one of the Great Men of faith of God he built the ark he saved mankind he saved Humanity and yet one of his last acts in life that we read of is he got drunk and laid naked there's a couple of good books I'd highly recommend if you're about 45 or 50 or older one is called the fourth quarter we don't have any copies of it right now but we're ordering trying to order some was on back order and it's written the idea that the game is won in the fourth quarter you can be winning the first quarter

the second quarter the third quarter but if you you could lose the game in the fourth quarter and then there's another book that by the same author titled overtime because he's lived longer than he thought he would he says now I'm in overtime in life and I want to make sure I finish the job I finish the course I I do what's right before God and I don't mess up so what happened to Noah how did he end up getting drunk well maybe he didn't mean to in Leviticus chapter 5 and verse 17 it says if a soul sin and committing these things which are forbidden to be done by the Commandments of the Lord though we wish not or he knew not yet is he is guilty and shall bear his iniquity you see sin a lot of

times you know we can sin there's a couple different words for sin and one of them means to deliberately sin as I told you before the the main word for sin in the Bible means to to miss the Mark it's like having the lane on the road that you're supposed to stay in your lane now if you pull out of that lane into the wrong lane and end up in an accident by hitting the car head on coming the other way or clipping a car that's trying to go by you on the side there then you're guilty because you what missed the mark you came out of your lane now you can do that on purpose or you can do that without realizing it by accident and maybe Noah somehow didn't know what he was doing some some Bible

scholars say well you know what uh the world had changed because of the flood the canopy had come down and maybe there wasn't alcohol before then and or maybe it wasn't as strong as an alcohol before then and Noah didn't realize that he could get drunk on it that may be a possibility although I uh as I read the Bible it sounds like before the flood there was drinking and people got drunk and so I think there was alcohol before the flood and maybe it was more more potent and maybe it was uh uh it got you drunk quicker or something like that I I don't know but there's some that would say well you know Noah he really didn't know what he was doing let me ask you a question if on the way home

today you're driving down the road and you're doing 45 in a 35 mile an hour Zone and the police pull you over and you tell the policeman well I didn't know it was a 35 mile an hour zone are you going to probably still get the ticket yeah because you're still guilty even though you didn't know it the consequences are still the same now we need to know what the law is we need to know what the right thing to do is and Noah should no should no one he shouldn't get drunk and and here Noah you know he he was he was he got drunk and maybe he didn't know it or maybe he did and thought he could handle it the Bible says in Proverbs Chapter 20 and verse number one wine is a mocker strong drink is

Raging whosoever is deceived thereby is not wise you know I hear the arguments about whether Christians should drink or not drink alcohol and most of you know that I'm opposed to alcohol I've seen the consequences of it and I hear Christians say well you know what I can handle it well maybe you can handle it but maybe Noah thought he could handle it too you know what gets us in trouble A lot of times when we think we're different when we think it won't happen to me when we think somehow I'm different that I can handle it First Corinthians chapter 10 and verse number 12 says wherefore let him to think and stand take heed lest he fall and and maybe after the flood Noah just kind of lit himself

relax a little bit and and he thought you know I I've been working so hard I deserve a break today and you only go around once in life and and maybe he thought he could handle I can drink and not get drunk and all the rest of that but you know what wine is a deceiver and the moment you think you can handle it it's gonna handle you and I don't know why Noah chose to drink and I don't know why he got drunk but the truth is he did but you know that wasn't the worst thing that he did look back at Genesis chapter 9 and look at verse number 24 and 25. and Noah awoke from his wine and knew what his younger son had done unto him he said cursed be Canaan a servant of servant shall be he uh he be unto

his brethren I think the worst sin was cursing his son was this his son's fault that he got drunk was this his son's fault that he laid naked before his father his son should not have gone and told his brothers his brothers handle a lot better than he did the Bible says in Genesis chapter 9 verses 22 and 23 and ham the father of Canaan saw the naked his father and told him told his true Brethren without and Shem and japheth took a garment and laid it upon both their shoulders and went backward and covered the nakedness of their father and their their faces were backwards and they saw not their father's nakedness you know Ham's sin was going and telling his brothers instead of just taking

care of it the Bible tells us in First Peter chapter 4 and verse number eight and above all things have fervent charity among yourselves for Charities to cover the multitude of sins Ham's brother said I don't want to see my father naked nobody wants to see that I don't want to see my father drunk I don't want to see my father in sin because that's not the father that I love and so They Carried that blanket and backwards and covered his nakedness now ham he saw it and immediately what do you think I've got to go tell somebody about this we want to gossip and that's not the right thing to do and ham was clearly wrong and you know one of the things we need to realize that our sin affects our

family and Leviticus chapter 26 and verse number 40 it says if they shall confess their iniquity and the iniquity of their fathers with their trespasses which they trespass against me and that have also walked contrary unto me you see what Noah should have done instead of judging his son for what he did he should have said you know what I was wrong he should have judged himself let me ask you a question how many boys do you think the first porn that ever found was their dad's stash you'd be surprised how many children took their first drink of liquor from their parents captains I think he'd be amazed how many girls have learned to be critical and judgmental because they had a mom that always

criticized their dad numbers 14 18 says the Lord is long-suffering of great Mercy for giving iniquity and transgressions by no means clearing the guilty visit the iniquity of the fathers upon the children of the third and the fourth generation ham was wrong when he saw what his dad his dad was drunk and laying naked he should have just covered him up and talk to his dad one-on-one privately later said dad what are you doing but instead he went to his brothers he was clearly wrong but I think Noah was also wrong to blame his son for his sin his son didn't make him drink his son didn't make him lay naked his son didn't make those choices no it did and so often when we sin we want to blame

everybody else but ourselves and James chapter 4 and verse number 10 the Bible says humble yourselves in the sight of God and he shall lift you up I think what Noah should have done is once he got out and got over being drunk he should have gotten dressed he should have gone out and said Sons I'm sorry I blew it I was wrong but instead he cursed his own son don't blame your children for your problems the Bible tells us in Matthew 6 14 for if you give men their trespasses your heavenly father will also forgive you Noah found Grace in the sight of God have you found God's grace for salvation as a Christian if you found God's grace for forgiveness see God forgave Noah we know that because he praised Noah in the New Testament in Hebrews chapter 11.

so God forgave Noah and showed him grace even in his sin and you know what God will forgive you too but even though God forgave Noah Noah's son was still forever cut off from the family and not only his son but his grandchildren and his great-grandchildren on Down the Line yes ham was wrong but I got to believe if Noah just said Son I wish you would just come to me and we could talk this out please forgive me it would have been a different situation